by Todd Sivers
It’s easy to see humanity as logical. Especially yourself as a logical, rational, thinking person who also has feeling and emotions.
But in reality, you’re an emotional, feeling person who also thinks. And even if it doesn’t feel that way to you, that feeling is an emotion. It isn’t logical.
Logically, humans always react to everything emotionally before we think. This is scientific fact. There is a specific part of your brain that thinks, your cerebrum. And there is a specific part of your brain that feels, or cues up your emotions, your amygdala.
All of our senses report to both the thinking and feeling parts of the brain. But that information always reaches the amygdala first.
You always have an emotional reaction to every situation before you even begin to think.
And that means that your emotions always have the upper hand inside your head. Momentum is always on their side. And unless you recognize logically that your emotions are all wrong, you usually let those emotions run the show.
You may be very good at hiding your emotions and putting on a happy or neutral face, or you may make no effort at tempering your emotions at all. But either way, your emotions lead the way almost all the time.
Emotions themselves aren’t bad or good. They’re tools that help you reach conclusions and act on those conclusions quickly, even before you begin to think. Some people are highly emotional and others are more logical. Highly emotional people tend to decide and act quickly, while highly logical people deliberate within themselves longer.
There are merits to each style, but one can’t be determined to be better than the other. And yet, whichever way you lean, you’ve already concluded that regardless of what I just said, your way is better.
You have a bias toward what you like and practice, it’s called a familiarity bias. You like what you know, and distrust what you don’t understand.
So if you lean toward logic, you’ll readily admit that it takes you longer than average to make decisions. But you’ll argue that the quality of your decisions are worth the wait. You’re right more often that people who are more impulsive.
But if you lean toward emotion, you’ve already grown bored with this blog post. Your method has plenty of merit as well. You’ll make ten decisions for each decision that logic minded person makes. They won't be well thought out, and they won't involve much research. And once you decide and act on each one, you’ll learn something you didn’t know before and couldn’t know without deciding and acting.
So even if your logic minded friend is ten times better at decision making than you, you’ll at least break even because the information from what you experienced through nine quick, emotional decisions will make the tenth one as good or even better than the logical person’s one thorough decision.
But the law of statistics is in the impusive person's favor, and not just a little bit. If you make ten quick, barely informed decisions, chances are that you'll make them on at least a little bit of awareness. So the odds are far greater than 50-50 from the very first decision.
But with the second decision you'll have more information. You'll have some evidence of the results of the first decision to sway the next choice.
And with the third, even more.
By the time you've reached the tenth decision, you're actually quite well informed. And your information is real. It's feedback, data. Not theory.
While the logic person is calculating the probability and possibility of this and that – you're seeing it happen in real life. And so your ten quick, ill informed decisions, acted on and learned from, almost always yield better results than one deeply considered and thoroughly researched decision.
This is a source of immense frustration for deeply logical people. But making quick decisions and actually acting upon and learning from them quickly almost always yields far better results than making well thought-out decisions.
So stop ignoring or overlooking your emotions, and start training them to serve you.
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