by Todd Sivers
If you’ve been a practicing pessimist for a long time, you may see optimists as either having their heads in the clouds or buried in the sand. But the examples you’ll think of to support these ideas aren’t examples of optimism. They’re examples of self-delusion, the kind that looks like optimism but does nothing to improve the situation.
Real optimists are also realists. They’re ready to work to make the changes they want. They expect that change will take effort. They’re not only ready to work to make the world a better place, they’re also ready to see things exactly as they are, without rose-colored glasses or a doom-and-gloom commentary.
If you want to become more optimistic, start by becoming more specific.
The opposite of specific is emphatic. Everyone occasionally embellishes a story for emphasis: “I’ve seen that a million times.”
But some people embellish the way they see things. Their very perception is emphatic. And that doesn’t allow them to see things as they actually are. They say things like “You never do anything right”, “You always show up late.” An actual specific observation would be, “This is the fourth time you’ve done this wrong.” or “You’ve been late six times this month.”
Specifics help optimism by giving real data to work with. Emphatics harm optimism by using absolutes instead of facts.
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