by Todd Sivers
We hear a lot of awful things about prejudice. And most reasonable people would never want to be accused of being prejudiced.
But everyone is prejudiced. Most of us try to be open minded and accommodating of other people and other perspectives. The buzzword "tolerance" gets thrown around a lot. I’ve always found the popularity of that word in poor taste. Tolerating people with different backgrounds and perspectives than our own seems to me to be a minimum acceptable effort. What I mean is, tolerance sucks.
I don’t mean to trivialize or gloss over how frequently people don't even tolerate those who are different. It’s far too common. But if we’re going to embrace a word to bridge the differences between people, tolerance is an awfully low bar.
For example, one person who has experienced a whole lot of prejudice and hate is Jesus. Jesus said to love your enemies. He took a much stronger word on both sides of the issue. Most of us don’t see people who are different as enemies, just as suspects. But we don’t go anywhere near love when talking about racial or gender equalities either.
And that’s a shame. Because if we’re going to change our biases, why not shoot for the stars?
This same incremental attitude toward change is why some people feel great when their employer gives them a 10% raise.
It is just as easy to aim for 1000% improvements as for 10%. It may be harder to attain, but in some cases, attaining huge increases is actually easier because everyone else is aiming for the increment.
So when it comes to changing your biases, go hog wild. Don’t tolerate new opportunities, different perspectives, and unexpected change- love them. At least for a while.
Most people automatically see every negative aspect of every change and every difference of opinion. So balance that by enthusiastically embracing these things as they happen, then allowing the negative biases to rise to the surface and pull you back a little.
I’m not saying you should say a bunch of flowery words you don’t mean. But you could affirm that you value the people and perspectives behind the thing. And as you do, you’ll automatically become more open to seeing things in new ways, and discovering more opportunities and better relationships for yourself.
It is paramount that we learn to see the world from perspectives other than our own, because seeing more fully is the first step of living more powerfully.
We all compare to find danger, familiarity, uniqueness, and desirability so that we can avoid what we don't want and experience more of what we do want. But sometimes our biases make us short-sighted.
We avoid small conflicts and miss big opportunities. We follow what is familiar and ignore what will make us more capable. We get distracted by uniqueness and lose focus on what works. We follow our short-term desires and miss out on our long-term dreams.
We’re all prejudiced. But we can all learn something new from everyone we meet. And if you keep that second fact in mind at all times, the first one will simply fade away. That kind of transformation is well within your power. And when you do it, you’ll be able to inspire all sorts of other people to do it as well.
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