by Todd Sivers
I love coaching because of its very nature. It is the best way to lead people, period. It’s best for the leader, and best for those led. Here’s why you should have (and maybe even be) a life coach...
1 The Coach Doesn’t Need to be an Expert.
As a coach, I assume no mastery of expertise over whatever I’m helping other people through. I can encourage, inspire, and even help direct people, but I never take the responsibility for choices that people need to make for themselves.
2 Freedom to be Yourself
I’m not you. You’re not going to want to do all the things I do. And what we both do, we’re going to do differently. Coaching acknowledges and encourages people to become Themselves, and do their own things their own way.
3 No Pressure for Results
I can help you clarify your goals, and straighten your path. But how far you go or how hard you work is ultimately up to you. Coaching faces this reality up front, so the coach isn’t burdened with the success or failure of the client. The coach is free to share opinions and see them accepted or declined without pressure or hurt feelings.
Because the client is free to pursue what is right for them, they’re also free to quickly change course if they realize that the path they’re on isn’t working. A good coach doesn’t stick to an agenda but to the personal growth of the client.
5 Success is Owned by the Right Person
When a coaching relationship is successful, both the client and the coach know that the client is responsible for his or her successes. The coach never owns the responsibility.
6 Failure is Owned by the Right Person
Conversely, when a coaching relationship fails, or when a client fails, both the client and coach know that the client is responsible for his or her failures. The coach is never burdened with the blame.
7 Encouraging Thought and Action, not Compliance
A coach gets to encourage his or her clients to think and to act. We never have to force a client to fit a mold or comply with a program. Clients get to seek what God made them for, not what convention or tradition dictate.
8 Coaching leads to Confidence, away from Confusion
Because clients seek their own unique path, they gain confidence in being themselves. Too often in leadership or even self-help circles the goal is to fit people into roles or categories that are predefined by someone or something else. Trying to fit and function as something other than your unique self causes confusion, self-doubt, and ultimately desperation. Your greatest achievement will come through your uniqueness.
9 Failure Comes Fast
Because the emphasis in coaching is on thought that leads to action, the client is encouraged to decide, and act. If the thought is right, and the action is right, success is found. If either thought or action is wrong, failure is found. Either result comes faster when your bias is on action. Every failure the client faces gives him or her more information to correct and complete the thought and act again. Each failure is a step toward success, so the faster the better.
10 People Become Internally Motivated
Because the client takes responsibility for his or her own path, she also owns the failures and ultimate successes along the way. As this journey builds confidence, it also strengthens the client’s ability to keep thinking and acting toward their personal design, and realizing the potential that is hidden in their uniqueness. When someone is coached well, they rapidly come to a point where they make positive change into a habit. They no longer need to be coached on basic things, and can be challenged and encouraged to grow stronger and achieve more. When a coaching relationship lasts, it’s based on continuous growth.
Coaching is the most exciting leadership model I’ve ever experienced, but it takes a selfless person to guide and motivate you without owning your results. Coaching is only as useful as the coach is selfless, so choose a coach wisely! And to grow yourself toward your own goals, or even start setting goals for yourself, join us for FREE today to get daily growth training and encouragement in your inbox.
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