by Todd Sivers
Your competence switch gives you tremendous power, because your competence switch controls your relationships with everyone, everything, and every situation.
Most people consistently underestimate the power of relationships. You might deeply value a few key relationships, but have you ever considered that you could create hundreds or thousands of deep, powerful relationships with all sorts of thoughtful, caring people all over the world?
There are five levels of relationships… five levels of competence that you bring to every relationship. These levels of competence dictate how powerful that relationship can be. If you can’t create relationships that move past level 1 or 2, then you can’t experience very much power in your relationships or in your life. Your competence switch controls the level of competence that you bring to every relationship.
You approach every relationship from one of these levels of competence. And the person, place, or thing on the other side of the relationship approaches from his, her, or it’s own level.
You can have a very moving, powerful experience from relationships with other people, beautiful places, stirring music, compelling stories. And if you do, it’s because the people, places, music, or story on the other side of that relationship challenged you, in one way or another, to increase your own level of competence.
Those powerful experiences can change your life if you rise to the occasion, and answer the call to greater competence. Or they can simply remain as strong memories, moments where you felt like you were in the presence of something extraordinary. Moments that came and went while you remained the same.
If you rise to the occasion those moments present, you will one day become the sort of person who creates those sort of moments for others. This can be a scary, intimidating idea. It may feel both powerful and filled with pressure. It may seem like a hard thing to do, a difficult place to go. And it is. But you can do it.
As you face the challenges your relationships present, you’ll naturally move your competence switch to a more powerful position.
You can take control of your competence switch and become a master of relationships, if you’re willing to do the work.
If you need other people to take charge and provide for you, or explain exactly what you should and should not do in every moment of every day, those people will have all the competence in the relationship, and you’ll have none.
If you have to balance every relationship, to ensure that the work, profit, opportunity, or experience is the same for everyone involved, you’re in for a life of frustration. Because life simply isn’t fair.
But if you’re willing to embrace other people where they are, and be honest but hopeful about where you are, you’ll move your competence switch.
If you’re willing to recognize and rise to opportunities, face challenges, and overcome obstacles, that’s because of your comparison switch.
And If you’re willing to get involved in less-than perfect situations, and try to make them better, you’ll move your competence switch.
Imagine how your life would change if you could take charge of your competence switch and set it wherever you want it.
Want to be able to approach, engage, and inspire people? Move your switch. Want to prevent people from manipulating you? Move your switch.
You can’t control what other people do. But you can fully control what opportunities and solutions you create for yourself and other people, how many people you can influence, and how powerful your influence is. That’s the power of your competence switch.
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